My friend asked: how do you measure success … you as writer, artist, transgressive transgressor?

A fair question, voiced at an unfair time—especially after the wails, the gnashing of teeth, self-flagellation and my immolation of the spirit. It was a bad day, hard in that way of earnest failure and rank invisibility.

Yes, a right and proper meltdown … but only with a few friends. Containment is easier, less messy that way. You slip on the condom of denial and let the heartfelt and sincere voices of reason teflon away, secured in a bubble of protection and righteous avowals that no amount of goodwill can ever be enough to overcome self-imposed isolation.

Over what, you might ask.

Trying to measure my own worth and coming up short. Because I sometimes forget my words aren’t scattershot universal messages of hope and goodwill and feel-good-self-esteem-raising-barns-with-neighborly-old-ladies…

My words teeter on intellectual eroticism (that was a good review) and they are big (“she uses big words,” reminding me of that Smothers Brothers skit… the words are dirty) and the endings aren’t gimmes or happy, the characters aren’t nice, not take home to meet mom nice, and I Jack White you into interrupting and corrupting…

And I need to remind myself I write that way because it pleases me, not them, me and maybe one or two others, and being brave and foolhardy are one and the same.

So some can’t finish, they take umbrage, blogs get written because I scuffed lines in sand and they hate me and my characters and got so invested it mattered enough to hate me and my characters, the ones who finished.

I know the problem. Not the solution, the problem. I write for men, not women. I write where the boundaries end. I write soul-sucking hard, feel it in the paint, take the feint and the three. I write my way because no one else will.

I write……about hope teetering on the knife edge of hopelessness, about sanctuaries that reveal the lies, and the men who ride the waves of despair.


From The Wrong Side of Right:


The biker continued to slug down shots, pouring his own in rapid succession as Tony vacillated about staying put or making a run for it. There was no doubt that the man was a predator and he was prey. Why he’d been singled out he couldn’t fathom. The biker’s buddies were happily ogling the goods on the dance floor. It stood to reason his darkly dangerous lothario should be trolling for a mierda fácil like the rest of the troglodytes, not fixating on him.

Tony flexed his wrist, surprised it still functioned. He had an urgent need to pee so getting the zipper down without doing major damage to his man parts rose to the level of compelling. When his biker groupie broke eye contact to pour another drink, Tony bolted around the corner of the bar and headed to the employee’s shared bathroom, a one-holer with a sink and disinfectant in a dispenser. It saved waiting in line at the men’s room or having a patron puke all over your shoes before the end of the shift.

The jury was still out if he’d return to tending bar, not that he’d done much of that since his arrival. Like a B-grade horror movie, from the get-go he’d gotten trapped in amber, unable or unwilling to move, to make a sound, or to fight off an unprovoked confrontation that made no sense.

The violence of the assault had scrambled his brains in more ways than one. If he was honest, it had stirred juices he didn’t know he had, and that scared him more than a big dumb fuck with dominance issues and a hard on for Jack Daniels.

After relieving himself, he stood over the sink and dry heaved, the adrenaline draining in a rush, leaving him shaking and in a cold sweat. There was no way he was going back out there. The memory of being trapped and beaten to a pulp for being a queer, a sissy, a queen was still too raw. It shut down everything, even his will to live.

Because no one had come, no one had stood up for him, not his father, or his mother, not his two older brothers or his nerd friends. When the bullies exposed his little secret, he became everybody’s favorite whipping boy but it never stopped the wanting, the yearning, the craving for something dirty and pure and his, his alone.

There were times he still cried, curled into a ball in a corner of the room he now called home, touching himself because nobody else would. Or bribing Jorge for a Friday night blow job that left him disappointed, because every time it happened, it hit home that there might be nothing more than just a quick scratch that never quite reached the itch.

He never heard the biker enter, but he did register the bolt engaging, locking him in with a man who could crack him open like a walnut.

“What’s your name, kid?” The voice was like the man: rough and raw, two-pack-a-day gravelly.

Tony ignored the question, instead choosing to concentrate on his reflection, praying that someone, anyone, would come looking for him. Jorge maybe, because he liked his bitch, and the tequila shooters, and the camaraderie at work. The kid was the closest thing to a friend he had.

The apron sat on the edge of the sink. Tony glanced down at it, then at the huge hand descending on his damaged wrist, the bruising already purpling over the blue veins. He was no lightweight but the biker out-massed him a good fifty pounds, not a bit of it fat. There was little he could do as the man examined his handy work.

He knew enough to not beg. That had stopped years ago. The fear never went away, though.

The man husked, “Sorry about that, sometimes I forget, ya know?”

No, he didn’t know, but it gave him a moment to take a breath. Sorrys often led to something else, usually punishment because the one being sorry didn’t like that kind of vulnerable, and that kind of vulnerable was him waiting for more, like he earned it. Hell, maybe he did.

He used to fight back but that made it sport because there was seldom just one. They ran in packs, the haters, and loners against a mob never fared well, at least not in his experience. So he’d tried passive, hoping for mercy. Shutting it out until the rage and the hate wore down and they’d made their point.

Looking in the mirror he was surprised to see a flare of compassion in the biker’s eyes, as if the man had gotten inside his head, had been where he was, where he still existed.

Tony muttered, “It’s okay,” though it never would be, but that wasn’t something he’d share with the hulk looming over him, pressing his groin into the hard porcelain, the man’s massive erection hard and stiff and prominent even through the thick leather.

The man turned him around and shoved him back against the sink, fumbling with Tony’s zipper, then his own.

“You ever been raped, boy?”

Turning away, Tony mouthed ‘please’ and tried retreating to his safe house, the one in his mind that blanked out everything hateful and ugly.

The biker’s hands pried him loose from his tentative scrabbling for safety, stroking and plumbing his flesh with determination, and sensation swelled from the inside out, responding and slamming the door against fleeing.

“Well, have you?”


The question terrified him. He had always feared he’d go to his grave a virgin, but the prospect of facing a savage with a cock the size of a semi wasn’t how he dreamed his first time would be. Definitely not when it promised to also be his last.

Tony’s cock betrayed him, growing stiff and thick, dancing against the biker’s huge phallus as the man ground his groin into his belly. The ridge of the porcelain bit into his ass and he reached behind to grip the edges as their cocks tangled and sparred, and he nearly swooned when the biker’s hands pressed both together and pumped hard, fast. Up, down, the beast nearly lifted him off his feet, only to jam him into the floor, his fingers curled around the rough underside of the sink, an anchor in a sea of violence. The grunts and pants and fuck yeah oh that’s good swam in the air like bubbles with words, not tethered to either of them. Just out there.

Tony bit his lip and squeezed his eyes shut tight, tighter, until the explosion behind his eyelids lifted him into orbit and he came, hot and sweet, cursing himself to hell and back because he loved it. He hated it.

Later he could not recall cleaning up or wrapping the apron around his waist, hiding most of the wet spots on his jeans and tee shirt. He did remember watching the big man pause at the door and give him a strange look because he had asked, “Have you?”

“Have I what, kid?”

“Been raped.”

“Not anymore.”

About Nya Rawlyns

Crossing boundaries, taking no prisoners. Write what’s in your soul. It’s the bass beat, the heartbeat, the lyrics rude and true. Nya Rawlyns is the pseudonym of a writer who cut her teeth on sports-themed romantic comedy and historical romances before finding her true calling in the wilderness areas she has visited but calls “home” in that place that counts the most: the heart. She has lived in the country and on a sailboat on the Chesapeake Bay, earned more than 1000 miles in competitive trail and endurance racing, taught Political Science to unwilling freshmen, and found an avocation in materials science. When she isn’t tending to her garden or the horses, the cats, or two pervert parakeets, she can be found day dreaming and listening to the voices in her head.
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6 Responses to Meltdown

  1. Sessha Batto says:

    Great post – I think all of us who write on the edge suffer the same concerns and self-doubt. But you’re right, in the end we write because we are driven to get the stories out, they aren’t pretty, or fluffy, or saleable . . .but they are truth and they mean a lot to people who need to hear that truth.


    • Nya Rawlyns says:

      One thing I recently realized is, In some ways, it’s an extreme act of cowardice to step away from an abyss over which our characters teeter. That trivializes their journey, their experiences and their feelings. I, as an author, owe them nothing less than what they have given me… truth—as harsh, as unvarnished as that truth might be.


      • mo883mpetersdesires says:

        I think that’s the truth of it. I wonder if, sometimes, that’s not the cause of what we know as “writer’s block’. “The ideas aren’t there,” we cry… but maybe they are – they’re just too scary for us to face at that point. Once we figure out what we’re ready to face, we can write again. Hm. An interesting thought, that.


  2. mo883mpetersdesires says:

    I suppose it’s different for everyone. Mostly, I write today concentrating on what’s different between you and I, because that’s what I understand. Once, I wrote feverishly, like you do now, because the words were cramming in my head, all jockeying for space I didn’t have to give them. I didn’t write FOR people – I wrote to give myself some peace. And some of it was good. Most of it was bad, would never see the light of day, much less be a published work. Some of it stuck with me, and when the words jangle at me now, I force myself to remember those good ones… and I am left with some silence.

    I don’t write for ‘anyone’. One select person, two if you’re counting me in that mess. I write what and when I want… and nothing more. Lately, it’s only because I joined up with a friend’s group, encouraging us to write a short, a flashie, a something, every month of the year except November (because we’re ‘busy in November’ xD). Reviews, good or bad or a complete lack of them, don’t bother me.

    Do I love the review you left me? Dear God yes. I treasure it because I look up to you, because your writing is exactly what I want to read, what I want MINE to be like, so that I can look at it in my darkest moments and not tear up the paper/hit DELETE. But I don’t let it direct my writing.

    Maybe it’s different because it’s not my source of income. Is it fun – uplifting, even – to see that I’ve made a sale, or two or three? Sure is – it’s secretly thrilling to know someone, somewhere, paid MONEY for something I wrote because the words were there. But that’s all. Maybe it’s more hurtful/confusing/whateveritis when it matters, as good writing does. Maybe I’ve convinced myself that my writing ISN’T good, so it’s a cheap thrill when someone buys it, and a ‘toldjaso’ to which no one listens (least of all, me) when they don’t. But when your writing is GOOD (and yours is so far beyond the outer reaches of the definition of that word that it almost seems an insult to use it as a reference), maybe it matters more. Maybe it doesn’t. I don’t know.

    What I DO know is that The Wrong Side of Right still makes me shiver, shudder, cringe, and gasp in the throes of a million-billion emotions that have no name. Every word, every snippet, is a lance, a hot needle across the flesh of my mind, searing Tony’s pain into my consciousness like a tattoo, making his terror my own. THAT is genius. And if only one or two or ten people get it, if only some small group feels it the way you do and I do … then let it be. Because that small group is the hardest to touch, I think. We’re the ones who have had those feelings beaten and shoved back into closets somewhere, because we don’t want the rest of the world, who wouldn’t understand them anyway, seeing the effect they have on the mask that we show them. You broke barriers down and smashed them to pieces BECAUSE YOU MADE US FEEL.

    Be proud of that.

    Own that.

    You more than deserve it.


    • Nya Rawlyns says:

      I can’t thank you enough for those kind words. I can’t speak for all, just those in my head, my heart and my soul. If their journey resonated with you, for that I am humbled and grateful.


      • mo883mpetersdesires says:

        It is I who should be grateful, Diane, because, without even knowing you did it, you’ve taught me more about myself and why I write, and if I even should, than you could ever know. You’ve shown me worlds about which I never thought I could have even the slightest bit of interest, much less with which I could have a total love affair …. so thank YOU. Always.



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